Two Choices That can Make Next Year The Best Year of Your Life

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 by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

What if there were just two choices you could make to
insure that next year would be wonderful? There actually are, and these
choices are quite simple in concept, yet not easy to do. They are not
things you do on the outside, such as exercising your body (which is
always a good thing to do!) but ways of thinking and being on the
inside. These have to do with your attitude and your intent.

GRATITUDE

I’m sure you’ve all heard of the “attitude of gratitude.”
Studies show that the happiest and most successful people in the world
are those who consistently live their lives with an attitude of
gratitude, who see their cup as half full rather than half empty. Let’s
take an example.

Alan and Martin are both firemen. They are both married
with children, but this is where the similarities stop. Alan’s life
seems to always be filled with joy and success, while Martin’s life
always seems to be in turmoil. What is the difference?

Alan is a very upbeat person who always sees the good
in everything and is always in gratitude for what he has. He is
thankful for his work, his health, his family and his friends. When
difficulties arise, he faces them head-on with an attitude of gratitude
for the opportunity to learn and to help others. He believes he is
spiritually guided and accepts challenges as opportunities for learning
and serving. As a result of his openness and caring, people trust him
and have come to him with opportunities to invest his money in ways
that have created a passive income for his family. He continues to work
because he likes it, not because he has to financially.

Martin, on the other hand, is a person who is
constantly complaining about everything. Nothing is ever good enough
for him. He blames others for his circumstances, takes no
responsibility for his own feelings, and has no belief that he is being
spiritually guided. He feels like a victim most of the time. As a
result of the stress he causes himself due to his negative thinking, he
is often ill, and experiences many family problems. He plods along in
his work, resentful that he even has to work. He often feels like life
is passing him by.

INTENT TO LEARN

God has given is the free will to choose our intention,
to choose is what is most important to us in any given moment. In our
relationship with ourselves and others, we have only two intentions to
choose from:

1) The intent to learn, with our spiritual Guidance,
about what is most loving to ourselves and others; 2) The intent to
protect against the pain of rejection, abandonment, engulfment, or
failure through some form of controlling behavior.

Our intent to learn or protect determines our experience in any given moment.

Hilary and Alice are both married with children. Both
women work as nurses, but, as with Alan and Martin, this is where the
similarity ends. Hilary and Alice have similar life challenges in both
work and family, yet to look at Hilary you would think she doesn’t have
a care in the world.

Hilary embraces all of life’s challenges from a solid
knowing that she is on a spiritual journey of the soul – a journey of
learning to be the most loving person she can be, both with herself and
with others. She accepts responsibility for her own feelings and
behavior, and opens to learning with Spirit and others when conflict
occurs. Rather than shying away from conflict, she welcomes it as an
opportunity for learning about herself and for healing any blocks to
being a pure instrument of God’s work upon the planet. Hilary feels
much peace and joy in her life.

Alice, on the other hand, is locked into the earthly
journey of control. Instead of learning from conflicts, she avoids them
with giving herself up or getting angry to have control over the
outcome. Rather than taking responsibility for her own feelings, she
often numbs out with food and wine. Control is her God. Alice is often
anxious and depressed as a result of her intent to protect, and is on
medication to deal with the resulting anxiety and depression.

It is not life’s circumstances that are causing Alan
and Hilary to have so much more peace and joy than Alice and Martin.
Choosing gratitude and the intent to learn, as opposed to complaining
and the intent to protect makes all the difference in the world.

Make this coming year the best year of your life by making these two choices – gratitude and the intent to learn.

About the Author

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.

margaret@innerbonding.com

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