Dominant by Day, Submissive by Night

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 by: Advice Diva

If you are like most men out there, you probably have no
idea what makes those head-strong, powerful and intelligent career
women “tick”. I am referring to those women you see in power suits,
managing a company or running her own, who seem completely invincible
and on top of the world. These women know what they want in life and
they do not stop until they get it. They are fast talkers, they can
close a deal with a simple wink of the eye, they can make a male
subordinate cry with the slightest of disappointed looks and they will
never settle for anything less than perfect sexual equality.
Furthermore, I think we can all agree that these are the sexiest women
out there. Men just love to imagine what they have on underneath those
designer suits.

The common train of thought and logic would lead you to
assume that these women are just as domineering in the bedroom behind
closed doors. Generally speaking, this is actually the furthest thing
from the truth. Every person out there is different with regards to
their personality in life and what turns them on after hours, and there
will be many variations and deviances from the norm. However, most of
the fierce and passionate women in the workforce love nothing more than
to come home and be completely subjugated and ravaged by a very strong
and masculine man.

In all sexual relationships there must be a dominant
and a submissive. Two dominants or two submissives can get together and
have magnificent sexual experiences, but there will be a certain
something lacking emotionally. Each one will feel less psychologically
satisfied because they will not be able to express their dominant or
submissive traits quite a comfortably as they should. Pop culture tends
to assume that people who are submissive during sex are doing so
because this is how they want to be perceived in life, they want to be
dominated. Even old psychology books will back up this old principle.
Fortunately, the psychology of arousal and the logic that lies behind
fantasies and the roles we play during lovemaking has been virtually
re-written by Dr. Michael J. Bader, the leading psychoanalyst in this
delicious area of expertise. To really sum up his new theories in a
very rough manner, our sexual desires are almost the opposite of who we
are in normal everyday life scenarios. His theories are applied to
every sexual thought, idea and fantasy and not just dominant and
subordinate behaviors. His new book made me quite hungry with dirty
little thoughts.

A dominant women enjoys being submissive in bed because
she is able to achieve stimulation. It is impossible to feel any kind
of guilt, worry, or anxiety and become sexually aroused at the same
time. Professional career women very often feel like they are too
overbearing towards men, too controlling and too dominant. That causes
a certain level of stress. This stress is completely alleviated by
becoming the submissive during intercourse thereby allowing her to
achieve stimulation. These and other new brilliant revelations have
created a paradigm shift in the psychology of sex. And I think it is
divine to have an in depth understanding of what makes the other person
scream with hot blooded delight.

Of course, every individual will have a specific dirty
little secret which turns them on and no two women are the same. This
article applies to many strong business women, but not all. It becomes
important to discuss what makes you turned on with your lover or find a
reciprocal partner. But now many of you men know our dirty little
secret. If you are the type of man who enjoys a dominant woman, the
same logic applies to the quiet little librarian with the cat
eyeglasses on. She just might be a dom-femme complete with a torture
chamber in her home where she can break her male slaves. And don’t
forget ladies …… this same idea applies to men!

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The Advice Diva has written three self-help guides on relationships and dating which can be found at http://www.advicediva.com. She also hosts an online advice column which is completely free of charge. The Diva does not claim to be an expert in any field. However, she has the ability to understand relationhips through past experience and her incredible insight. Aside from her website, the Diva also publishes monthly articles in two magazines and several notable websites.

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